“Where are you????”
Posted on May 11th, 2009
If a Loved One has died, does that question keep coming to mind?
We know that they died. We had arranged the memorial services. We had composed and published the obituary, cancelled credit cards, gave away some of their beloved belongings. We know with certainty that their earthly bodies were buried, or they were cremated. So, rationally, intellectually, of course we know that they are dead.
And yet. And yet a part of our brain keeps asking: “Where Are You?”
The question is not where – in the afterlife – have they gone.
It is not a question that we consciously formulate. It does not come from our fervent wish that it were not true. It does not come from the ‘top’ of the brain, from the thinking part of the brain. It comes from the depths of our psyche… like a deep primal cry that demands an answer.
“You died?????” Died?
It feels very bizarre and weird… and feels like a very real, valid question.
It is a very common feeling.
Why is that? Why is it so hard for the brain to completely wrap itself around the reality that our Loved One has died.